Do not dwell on the past or dream of the future but concentrate on life in the present, in the moment…..
I have met many people from all walks of life, the common denominator between all of us is we all suffer the same pain. Emotional pain in any relationship affects our heart. When we have pain from our partners we also have to understand and heal, to have closure and peace of mind.
Gloria was in her early 60’s she was bright bubbly and attractive, she had all the trappings in life she could want, and she was more than secure financially, homes in UK and France, world travel, and two adult daughters and two grandchildren. Her husband, the second, she had dated for over ten years, he too was on his second marriage, and had two daughters and one son, who were all established in life.
She worried about their relationship; why does he not propose marriage? Why? They lived in her country house, and enjoyed a wide circle of friends and had a good social life. This need for legal commitment grew and in time, the thoughts of what if?
What about if in 15 years I die? Or what if something happened to him? What about the house, the monies the pensions… something needs to be sorted out.
But in this relationship Gloria was hell bent on marriage, so with nowhere else to go for either they married, after a 12 year courtship.
Now Gloria is still not happy she has a wonderful life style but is lonely as he spends all this time in his own world, in the study, on his computer doing his own thing. Gloria feels totally sad and unfulfilled with the relationship, it is like living with her brother, but nowhere else to go.
I told her to look at her life, become involved in the hobbies and interests she likes, and this would fill a gap, not necessarily make her feel loved but at least, it will give her some balance.
Talk to him don’t try and change him, plan more things together, were you socialise -and don’t feel the victim, you’re not! You have what you set out to get. If you had let nature take its course you may not have wanted what you thought you did.
So Live in the moment, not the past or the future, and look at your relationships whoever they are with, in an objective realistic way.
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We have all seen in the news recently the Oprah Winfrey interview with Lance Armstrong! I saw snippets of the talk, and I was instantly drawn to the fact that Lance must have been in a disharmonious mode for many years. Because the mind, and body would have been totally out of sync with his being, of spirit
We all can be out of sync, and it is important we try to see our Mind Body Spirit connection because it is our balance, we can all have harmony within – even in times of crisis, if we are aware of these components. Each day take a moment to think how during the day or the coming week we can pay attention to ourselves.
Think about what we are eating, how we are going to use our body, walking and light exercise, and take some time each day to listen to your inner self, even if it is only five minutes a day. Your spirit will send thoughts into your mind for you to decipher.
I wish Lance Armstrong, on his journey for peace and realisation, harmony of his Mind Body Spirit connection. For he is on the journey of putting all that has been fragmented together.
Focus on what is good and wholesome in your life, what you would do, what would make you happy, think about how you can sync your mind body and spirit.
Take a leaf from Buddha, think about it, pure wisdom, incorporate this into your daily life….
“All that we are is the result of what we have thought. The mind is everything. What we think we become.”
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What is the greatest thing you can give to another person in your life? Do you know, is it likely to be something different for all of us? Well this is my personal feeling.
The one thing you can give is TIME, it is something you cannot get back, change or make go away. It is precious, a great gift for us in this life it moves and it takes us along with it, and the end of each day is like a tomb closing never to be experienced again.
Make time for “You” this new year, say “I “am going to value me, I will make myself important and how I give back to myself is very key to my life.
Life today is rushing and multi tasking and during this time we forget that we are who we are, we become an extension of the hustle and bustle of daily life, we work, exercise, so much multi tasking….So then what about 2013? It is a year to be Kind to YOU.
I guess I am saying manage your time well. You may think it is crazy, but let me explain, if you’re going on holiday you need, a checklist, clothes, tickets, money, your house needs to be locked up, you need to organise transport as well don’t you?
So why can’t you do the same with time? For you, plan each week or month whatever you wish to do, what is best for you. Allow some time for YOU
It is valuable and do you know what it will do – it will EMPOWER YOU….give some healing to your hectic life. If you need help or would like to know more, please leave a comment below, use my contact page.
A new year begins, and many of us make our New Year resolutions, and look forward to what the year brings with anticipation and optimism. But while one side of life does that, another set of people live in a permanent darkness. Not the night but a darkness within their being, their soul. For many they struggle with loss. Loss affects all of us in some way, and dealing with loss is very hard and cannot be measured.
In relationships, if a person is divorcing, or if someone close to you has died you feel lost, alone, hopeless, you can be depressed, you may even feel that this has not happened to you, as though you’re watching it going on and just acting a part but it is not real. This is the body and mind protecting you from the whole trauma.
Let me explain, (this is my personal analogy) let us imagine, a big picture on the wall, it is your life your situation and something that is affecting you. You are in the middle of the photo, but your mind body and spirit is overwhelmed with great pain, but your mind is so clever and so is mother nature, she makes you feel that you’re not in this picture but rather you are watching it. You only see the small picture not the whole of it.
In this way you can cope better, and slowly over time we are able to look at more of our life (the bigger picture) as and when the healing process begins.
At this time of year, in the depths of winter with the holidays behind us it can accentuate the pain of loss in relationships! We all have different coping mechanisms but don’t try and battle this alone. Join a group, talk about your loss, if you need medical help get it.
Look at your blessings they will be there. But most of all know that in time mother nature will heal you, slowly but surely the pain will cease and you will leave it all behind you – just as a bird sheds its feathers so will you once again soar to great heights.
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In 1986 Susan King hit her head—hard—in a car accident. The result was more than a concussion. Afterward, when King looked at people, she saw images of events occurring in their lives and had flashes of insight about them. With uncanny knowledge of their situations, she has been able to advise clients on everything from job searches to divorce proceedings. King refers to her work as intuitive counseling, and though her vocation may seem rarefied, she believes that intuitive power is available to everyone. “To me it’s our body’s radar, helping us make all sorts of decisions—if only we’re willing to pay attention.”