A Personal Note On Loss Through Relationships – I Know You Will Come Through It

By January 14, 2013February 17th, 2015Relationship Counselling

A new year begins, and many of us make our New Year resolutions, and look forward to what the year brings with anticipation and optimism.  But while one side of life does that, another set of people live in a permanent darkness. Not the night but a darkness within their being, their soul. For many they struggle with loss.   Loss affects all of us in some way, and dealing with loss is very hard and cannot be measured.

In relationships, if  a person is divorcing, or if someone close to you has died you feel lost, alone, hopeless, you can be depressed, you may even feel that this has not happened to you, as though you’re watching it going on and just acting a part but it is not real. This is the body and mind protecting you from the whole trauma.

Let me explain, (this is my personal analogy) let us imagine, a big picture on the wall, it is your life your situation and something that is affecting you. You are in the middle of the photo, but your mind body and spirit is overwhelmed with great pain, but your mind is so clever and so is mother nature, she makes you feel that you’re not in this picture but rather you are watching it. You only see the small picture not the whole of it.

In this way you can cope better, and slowly over time we are able to look at more of our life (the bigger picture) as and when the healing process begins.

At this time of year, in the depths of winter with the holidays behind us it can accentuate the pain of loss in relationships! We all have different coping mechanisms but don’t try and battle this alone.   Join a group, talk about your loss, if  you need medical help get it.

Look at your blessings they will be there. But most of all know that in time mother nature will heal you, slowly but surely the pain will cease and you will leave it all behind you – just as a bird sheds its feathers so will you once again soar to great heights.

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